Archive for July, 2010

My 100 Posts Milestone

This is my 100th post since starting Coffee Cup Conversation in January of 2010! It’s been fun and challenging. Thanks for your comments. It’s not a conversation without your input.

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Top 10 Post

These are the 10 posts that got the most clicks over the past 6 months.

  1. Small Group Communication Channels
  2. Who Gets To Eat The Fruit Of The Spirit?
  3. My One Another Community
  4. The Sending God
  5. 5 Questions To Ask Before Meeting With Your Church
  6. Interviews Concerning Simple Church
  7. 5 Ways To Encourage One Another
  8. How Small Group Questions Carry Over To Everyday Life
  9. You Are Loved and You Belong Here Now
  10. Facilitating A Group Meeting With The 4 W’s

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Grab a cup of coffee and click through some of the favorites above and leave a comment.

I look forward to the days ahead.

Grace and Peace,


5 Characteristics of Kindness

Being part of a simple church makes it possible for us to better live out the “one another” passages of the New Testament. In Ephesians 4:32 we are told to “be kind to one another.” As Christ followers, kindness should be a characteristic of our lives directed toward everyone and specifically should be expressed among members of the family of faith.

Being kind to one another is not a random thing. It is something that is to permeate and flow from our lives regularly on a daily basis.

Kindness is more than restraining from doing unkind things. It is a positive, outward and practical demonstration of our love for one another.

When the body of Christ gathers together kindness should be visibly practiced. It should also be present whenever we do life together. It is to be evident wherever we go.

Here are 5 characteristics of kindness:

1. Kindness is being aware of the needs of others and meeting those needs

(Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. – Philippians 2:4 NIV)

2. Kindness is using words to build up one another

(An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up. – Proverbs 12:25 NIV)

3. Kindness keeps the peace

(And the Lord’s servant must not quarrel; instead, he must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. – 1 Timothy 2:24 NIV)

4. Kindness is always looking for an opportunity to do good

(Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers. – Galatians 6:10)

5. Kindness does not retaliate

(Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always try to be kind to each other and to everyone else. – 1 Thessalonians 5:15 NIV)

When someone who is seeking to know what it means to follow Christ comes into our meetings will she see us being kind to one another?

Be aware of opportunities to show kindness to one another then next time your simple church, cell group or small group gathers.

Grace and Peace,


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9 Reasons A Good Welcome Makes A Difference

Most of us don’t have any problem knowing how to gather for a time of informal fun and food, but what can we do in a simple church gathering when we need a little structure? We have discovered that one of the best ways is to use a little outline that some call the 4 W’s – Welcome / Worship / Word / Work.


4 W'sGood meetings happen when we are linked together and everyone present feels wanted and welcome. Even though we see and speak to one another often during the week we need some time to reconnect. The Welcome time should help us transition from informal chatting and visiting to a more focused time of edification.

Here are 9 reasons why I believe that a directed focus on welcoming one another into a small group, cell group or simple church meeting is important:

  1. We reconnect with the group no matter how well we might know the other members
  2. We get involved from the beginning
  3. We participate in an atmosphere of listening
  4. We feel valued as others listen to us
  5. We learn some fun things about one another
  6. We hear our own voices in a group setting
  7. We develop a sense of belonging
  8. We are reminded that we are the body of Christ
  9. We strengthen our “one another” bond before we direct our attention to God in worship, look into His Word and seek to see where He is working in our world.

What reasons would you add to the list?

Grace and Peace,


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Will You Help Me On The Wild Waves

The following prayer is attributed to St Brendan, a Celtic monastic of the 7th Century. He has been called “Brendan the Voyager,” “Brendan the Navigator” and “Brendan the Bold.”

A Prayer of St. Brendan

Shall I abandon, O King of mysteries, the soft comforts of home? Shall I turn my back on my native land, and turn my face towards the sea?

Shall I put myself wholly at your mercy, without silver, without a horse, without fame, without honour? Shall I throw myself wholly upon You, without sword and shield, without food and drink, without a bed to lie on? Shall I say farewell to my beautiful land, placing myself under Your yoke?

Shall I pour out my heart to You, confessing my manifold sins and begging forgiveness, tears streaming down my cheeks? Shall I leave the prints of my knees on the sandy beach, a record of my final prayer in my native land?

Shall I then suffer every kind of wound that the sea can inflict? Shall I take my tiny boat across the wide sparkling ocean? O King of the Glorious Heaven, shall I go of my own choice upon the sea?

O Christ, will You help me on the wild waves?

Where is God leading you today?

Will you choose to pray as Brendan? Will you go?

Grace and Peace,


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Participating In What God Is Doing

One of the most important things I learned from Henry Blackaby’s Experiencing God is that God is always working and he invites me to join him. When I listen to the invitation and look to see where he is at work, it always creates a crisis of belief that will require faith and action on my part.

Eugene Peterson’s quote expresses the same truth:

The assumption of spirituality is that always God is doing something before I know it. So the task is not to get God to do something I think needs to be done, but to become aware of what God is doing so that I can respond to it and participate and take delight in it.” – Eugene Peterson

Where do you see God working in your life right now?

Will you respond to his invitation to join him?

Jesus said to them, “My Father is always at his work to this very day, and I, too, am working. . . I tell you the truth, the Son can do nothing by himself; he can do only what he sees his Father doing, because whatever the Father does the Son also does. For the Father loves the Son and shows him all he does. Yes, to your amazement he will show him even greater things than these. – John 5:17, 19-20

Grace and Peace,


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